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The Middle Passage - Stories of Survival:
 My Ex-Husband, The Church, and I

by Allison Miller as told to Gregory Bearstop
  in the Feb-Apr 2008 Print Issue of Port of Harlem

I was hysterical and just could not take it anymore.  My husband was drowning my spiritAllison Miller in emotional and verbal abuse.  I just had to get away.  So one day I finally grabbed my keys and began driving from Bowie, Maryland to my hometown Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

As I made my way up I-95, I contemplated driving my car off an embankment to my death.  However, I realized that instead of dying from the crash I may just become severely injured.  So I turned my car around and wept.  When I returned to Bowie, I called New Life Clinic and reached out for professional help. 

It took a week for my insurance company to approve the Clinic enrollment and for my Mom to arrive to take care of my toddler daughter.  As I peeled back the layers of my emotional distress, my counselor at the Clinic advised me that my problem seemed to reside in my marriage and the church that I had recently helped establish.

I had centered my whole life around my marriage and church.  My husband was a deacon.  I sang in the choir, ran the book store, participated on the praise team, and even became a deaconess. With such a deep connection to the church, I could not accept my counselor’s advice.  So, rather than face the possibility of aborting my life as I knew it, I aborted treatment. 

My marriage continued along its rocky path and we soon began marriage counseli
ng sessions.  Because of our active roles in the church, we felt comfortable seeking help from our pastor. However, those sporadic sessions turned into a scrimmage where it seemed that the pastor and my husband colluded to mar and discredit me.  I did not stand a chance.  My husband called me inflexible; yet, he never addressed how he was emotionally unavailable.

As tension mounted in our marriage, my health began to deteriorate.  I experienced arrhythmia, anxiety, and panic attacks.  I took medication just to quell my anxiety.  Having reached the point where my physical health was in jeopardy, I finally decided to take drastic action to change the course of my life: 

Bearstop presents "The Middle Passage: A Story of Survival" in every other print issue of Port of HarlemClick here if you have a story to tell.  Read Allison Miller’s full story only in the current print issue of Port of HarlemClick here to subscribe


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New Hours at
Anacostia Art Gallery & Boutique

After being closed for the winter, The Anacostia Art Gallery and Boutique has new hours: Saturday and Sunday noon to 6p.  The Gallery’s garden space is also available for rent for parties, weddings, and other important events.  The garden space includes a sculpture garden and colorful open-air bandstand.

The boutique and garden are at 2806 Bruce Place, SE, up the hill from the Smithsonian Anacostia Museum.  The Museum is currently exhibiting East of the River:  Continuity and Change.  There is plenty of free parking at the boutique and museum.  For additional information call 202-610-4188
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B. Johnson and S. Banks Won
The Lost Supreme:
The Life of Dreamgirl Florence Ballard

Bridget Johnson and Stephanie Banks have won copies of The Lost Supreme: The Life of Dreamgirl Florence Ballard.  Both simply replied with the correct answer to the question:
What is the name of the book reviewed in the current print issue of Port of Harlem?

The answer is:   No Safe Place: A Gen-X Childhood in Black.

Next Scheduled Contest: Free tickets to see gospel greats Dorothy Norwood and Albertina Walker at the Lincoln Theater in Washington, D.C. Saturday, May 10 at 7:30p.   Tickets are $40, $35 if purchased before Wednesday, April 30.  For tickets call Sterling Washington (202) 446-1100 x1123.  The performances are a part of Us Helping Us’ annual Mother’s Day Concert.  Read our exclusive interview  with Norwood in the upcoming May - July 2008 print issue.



POH Photographer Wins Award

Port of Harlem Jonathan Frenchcontributing photographer Jonathan French was voted Outstanding Emerging Artist at the Annual Mayor's Arts Awards at the Kennedy Center.


New Release of the
Underground Railroad Newsletter


The Underground Free Press has released the March 2008 issue of the Underground Free Press.  Click here for a free viewing.


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Black Memorabilia & Collectible Show - April 12

The annual Greater Washington, D.C.
Black Memorabilia & Collectible Show
takes
 place Saturday, April 12 at the Montgomery Country Fairgrounds from 10am to 7p.   General admission
is $6 with kids 12 and under admitted for free.
Food is available at the historic event and parking
 is free.



African Art Museum Celebrates at
Ghanian Embassy


The Embassy of Ghana celebrated the opening of the Smithsonian African Art Museum's exhibit that features the work of El Anatsui.  Anatsui has experimented with a variety of media, including wood, ceramics and paint. Most recently, he has focused on discarded metal objects, hundreds or even thousands of which are joined together to create truly remarkable works of art. Anatsui continues to live and work in Nsukka, Nigeria, but maintains close connections with his native Ghana.

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